欢喜plus:[欢喜原创] <br /> <p class="MsoNormal" style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-char-indent-size: 10.5"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">1<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">“</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">愧疚是最大的负能量,任性是最被低估的美德</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">。”</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">终于学会骂人的蒋方舟在奇葩大会上讨论讨好型人格时如是说。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">讨好型人格说起来其实是低自尊的表现。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><o:p><br /></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低自尊是和高自尊相对的一个词</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">在现在这个讲求上进和锐意进取的时代</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低自尊性格往往被认为是导致</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低效率的、必须克服的一种弱点。低自尊的人生活中的行为模式,在面对自我时表现出自我怀疑、自我贬低,在和他人的社会交往中表现出忽视自己的情感和感受、以他人需求为先,甚至讨好别人、小心翼翼、患得患失的倾向。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">大多数低自尊人群难以在和别人意见相左时提出反驳,因为他们潜在地害怕争执和冲突。一旦发生争论,他们会担心对方生气,或是认为他人将对自己产生不好的看法,内心总是感到不安,认为别人说的话、做的事有针对自己的可能。然而,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">你有没有发现,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">这种不安会对自己的情绪产生十分大的消耗,导致更大的沟通障碍和脆弱的心理状况</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">呢?</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">就好像某位网友说的一样,“</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">被人误解点什么事,恨不得揪着对方的衣领解释三天三夜</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">”。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低自尊往往和自卑、敏感相伴而行,而</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">“几乎每个敏感内向者都是变着花样谴责自己的高手。”</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">犹如而恶性循环一般,糟糕的心理状态</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">让</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">生活里的挫折和困难</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">好像变多了</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">,这些困难反过来又加剧了心理的脆弱程度。因此,找出自己低自尊的来源,并且懂得运用有效的方法,调试好自己的心理状态,能实现心理更健康、更优秀的自己。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">说到</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">原因</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低自尊极大可能来自于家庭和社交上的挫败感。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">审视自己的成长环境,也就是家庭,因为家庭环境对一个人的影响几乎是贯穿终生的。冷漠的家庭氛围、来自于父母的频繁呵斥非常容易使得在这种家庭里成长起来的孩子变得比其他同龄人更为敏感脆弱,缺乏自信心。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">如果你在近些年的生活轨迹中找不到自己低自尊的来源,那么试着回想一下,生命之中你所能想起的早期记忆。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">奥地利作家阿德勒在他的著作《超越自卑》中指</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">出</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">,在所能记起的最早回忆里,隐藏着对我们当下行为模式和人格的解释。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">也许在你四五岁时,家庭生活遭遇巨大变动,或是家庭内部产生了不可调节的矛盾,这些都有可能造成你现在心理上的困境。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">而我本人,就是这种冷淡家庭氛围的受害者。我的父亲寡言少语,对我和弟弟很少关心,偶尔发言,必定是呵斥的语气,所以我通常会避免和他交流,以免遭到言语暴力。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">而我对他人的示好会感到非常开心,有时候甚至忽视自己的需求回应别人的请求。在相当长地一段时间里我都怨恨我爸,认为他根本不会做父亲,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">同时</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">也非常讨厌我家里人说我性格中有像我爸的地方。弟弟告诉我,有次清明节我爸回去祭祖,正好</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">弟</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">弟那段时间腿上生了癣,我爸让他坐在床上,蹲在地上给他涂药。就是这么一点小事,因为太罕见,我弟当时都想哭,这一份感动里,恐怕也是心酸来得多。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">成长环境让我觉得它导致了我的性格太沉闷,随之而来的社交上的挫败感,也是造成我低自尊性格的一大原因。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">我一直</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">认为自己不善于和他人打交道,不知道如何和他人沟通,因此</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">在社交中总是习惯于顺从,避免反驳和提出自己的看法,压抑自己、逃避他人对自己的评论和期待,不加区分地选择合群</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">,胆小、懦弱。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">有时候,我希望获得同伴和关注,也有可能为了合群或者拥有朋友,无底线地顺从别人。我总在揣测别人的想法,小心翼翼,生怕别人的不悦来源于自己,却从未注意过,自己值得更好的对待,也配得到更好的对待。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-char-indent-size: 10.5"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">2</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">和我一样,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">朋友</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">嘉嘉</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">因为忽视自己的感受,在</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">一段</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">感情里</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">筋疲力尽,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">以为自己无止境的默默付出就能换来对方的真心和长久的感情,不自觉地把自己的姿态放的低到尘埃里,一味迁就对方,最后却未能在这苦涩中开出花来。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">嘉嘉</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">和男友屡次分手屡次复合。男方很受女孩子欢迎,在和</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">嘉嘉</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">交往期间仍然和其他女孩暧昧不清。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">嘉嘉</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">以为自己只要全心全意对他好,不要求对方的回报,就能成为最后收服这位花花公子的真命天女。可事实是,不管</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">嘉嘉</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">怎样死心塌地的对待他,他仍是陋习难改,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">嘉嘉</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">被伤害很多次,却不舍得放手,只要男方回头找她,她仍然会相信对方那脆弱的承诺。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">这是一个俗套的爱情故事。嘉嘉那让旁人气愤又无奈的卑微</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">打着</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">爱的名义</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">内</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">里其实全是低自尊的内核</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低自尊的人要改变自己,首先要认识自己。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">古希腊德尔斐神庙门楣上镌刻着这样一个神谕——“认识你自己”</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">而这并不是一件简单的事。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">每个人都有自己的弱点,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">在低自尊的人眼里,弱点被放得太大,简直要一叶蔽目,甚至可能将自己的弱点视为一种“恶”。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">以前的我,非常害怕在别人面前暴露出自己的缺点,粗心也好,脑子转的慢也好、人缘一般也好,我统统都没办法去正视,去大胆承认,然后满不在乎地说一句“没错我就是这样”。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低自尊的人,通常都信心不足,那么就多做自己擅长的事情好啦,从这些事情里找到自己的价值和意义,给予自己自信心。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; TEXT-INDENT: 21pt; mso-char-indent-count: 2.0; mso-char-indent-size: 10.5"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold">3</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">取悦他人,实则不如取悦自己。注重自己的个人感受,做选择前问问自己,那样做真的是出于自己的本意吗?</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">一味取悦别人带来的踏实感,是不真实的,连快乐也要打个折扣。取悦自己,欣赏自己,赞美自己,多做让自己愉悦的事,尊重他人,也要尊重自己。少和那些不在乎你的感受的人往来,这也是一种自爱。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">另外,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">我们可以通过学习一些技巧来展示出自己是一个自信的人</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">尽可能给自己积极的心理暗示。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; FONT-WEIGHT: bold; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">Fake it until you make it! </span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">(假装自己可以做到,直到你真的做到为止。)</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">现在的我会让自己尝试去做觉得有难度的事情,比如</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">能说出与别人相悖甚至导致别人不悦的观点</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">;比如能够拒绝别人的过分请求,在乐于助人和委屈自己建立一条清晰的界限;又比如,更加关注自己的内心感受,看一些心理类的文章主动求解。<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">当然,告别低自尊,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">同时也要正确地看待低自尊</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">的</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">性格特质</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低自尊虽然有很多坏处,却也表示你能敏锐地察觉他人情绪变化、体贴关心他人。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">不能过犹不及,一棍子打死,甚至对他人的需求刻意保持淡漠的态度,这是一种虚假的“自尊自爱”。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">不再为他人的情绪而惴惴不安,我获得了更多的自由和更喜欢的</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">自己,希望你也是。</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-ansi-language: EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"> </p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">记住,</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">低自尊的你,值得更好的对待,别太看轻自己。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 21pt;"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53">(原创文章。转载请注明作者和出处)</span><span style="FONT-FAMILY: _5b8b_4f53; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: _5b8b_4f53; mso-fareast-font-family: _5b8b_4f53"><o:p></o:p></span></p>