sisi:<span style="color: rgb(31, 31, 31); font-size: 24px; line-height: 1.4; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">有智慧的人,始终留给别人“第二次机会” </span> <br /> <div class="rich_media_meta_list" style="margin-bottom: 18px; font-size: 0px;"><span id="post-date" class="rich_media_meta rich_media_meta_text" style="margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 10px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(140, 140, 140);">2016-04-26</span> <span class="rich_media_meta rich_media_meta_text" style="margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 10px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(140, 140, 140);">张德芬</span> <a class="rich_media_meta rich_media_meta_link rich_media_meta_nickname" id="post-user" style="margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 10px; color: rgb(96, 127, 166); display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; font-size: 16px;">张德芬</a></div> <div class="rich_media_content " id="js_content" style="overflow: hidden; color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; text-align: center; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 14px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">——</span><strong style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 14px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">给儿子的信</span></strong><span style="font-size: 14px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">——</span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; text-align: center; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(64, 118, 0); max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 14px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">有关“道德标准”</span></strong> </span> </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">亲爱的儿子,</span><span style="line-height: 1.6; font-size: 17px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">你已经满20岁了,非常有自己的主见,妈妈注意到你有很高的道德标准。有一次,妈妈的一个粉丝请我吃饭,我带你一起去。饭后,你告诉我这个条件不错的男人喜欢我,可是你也很厉害的看出来妈妈对他没有兴趣。然后你说,“我还蛮喜欢他的,直到他提到他有女朋友。”我说,“为什么?是女朋友,又不是老婆。”你嘟囔着说,“有女朋友这样做不可以。”我觉得很好玩,知道你在道德方面有很高的标准。</span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">谁知道他和女朋友是什么关系?他和妈妈吃一次饭,受我吸引,也没做什么,又有什么不可以?你的批判来得太快太急,对你来说并不是好事。</span><strong style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">妈妈做人做事,始终都留给别人第二次机会,而且不会立刻妄下断语说:这是对的,那是错的。</span></strong></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">记得小时候有一次你在我房里鬼鬼祟祟,我进去的时候你慌张的不知所以,我问你怎么了,你就哭了。抽抽噎噎的说对不起,你本来想偷我皮包里的钱。我没有骂你,只是温和的问你,需要钱为什么不跟妈妈要,需要用偷的?你羞愧不已,一直痛哭,说我给你的零用钱不是很够,你想买东西。</span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">我后来和你爸爸商量,调整了你的零用钱。但是我最关心的倒不是你的偷钱,而是你的羞愧感。我知道你是个好孩子,有良好的家庭教育和父母榜样,将来不会变坏的。然而这种羞愧感,妈妈可不想要它跟随你一辈子。于是我告诉你好多故事:</span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">爸爸小时候唯一被奶奶打过一次,就是因为偷奶奶的钱。你看你爸爸,现在是个多么正直的好人。 </span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 17px;"></span><span style="font-size: 17px;">妈妈小时候家里穷,有我爸朋友的小孩来家里玩,带着一把漂亮的宝剑。我太喜欢了,就把它偷偷藏在一个五斗柜的后面,让他们找不到。不过后来我自己也找不到那把宝剑了,白偷了。</span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"></span><span style="font-size: 17px;">妈妈的一个好朋友,十几岁的时候也去商店里偷东西,因为实在没有钱,但是又想和朋友一样穿漂亮一点。现在她是妈妈最好的朋友,人也是非常正直,绝对不会贪图别人什么东西。</span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"></span><span style="font-size: 17px;">我告诉你这些,是希望你知道,人都有犯错的时候,但最重要的是要知道:不要拿不属于我们的东西,而且人不能贪心。你需要钱,可以跟妈妈好好商量,妈妈会支持你,不需要用这种让自己也难过的方式。</span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; line-height: 25px;">我的原谅和接纳,带给你很大的安慰,你从此对我非常信任,什么话都告诉我,母子之间没有秘密。所以说,妈妈没有因为你一次的糊涂行为,就对你妄下定论,严厉的教训你,让你留下羞耻感。我相信你的善良和正直,我也关心你的心理健康和快乐。</span><span style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">我现在想跟你玩个游戏,让你了解一下我们所谓的“对错好坏“,有的时候真的是不好说的。请你回答下面这两个问题:</span></p><span style="font-size: 17px;"> </span> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">问题一:如果你知道一个女人怀孕了,她已经生了8个小孩了,其中3个耳聋,2个眼瞎,一个智力有缺陷,而这个女人自己又有梅毒,请问,你会建议她堕胎吗?</span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"></span><span style="font-size: 17px;">问题二:现在要选举一名领袖,你的这一票很关键,下面是关于3个候选人的的一些事实:</span></p> <ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 30px; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; list-style-type: circle; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"> <li style="margin-bottom: 0px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 17px;">候选人A:跟一些不诚实的政客有往来,而且会星象占卜学。他有婚外情,是一个老烟枪,每天喝8到10杯的马丁尼。 </span></p> </li> <li style="margin-bottom: 0px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 17px;">候选人B:他过去有过2次被解雇的记录,睡觉睡到中午才起来,大学时吸鸦片,而且每天傍晚会喝一大夸特威士忌。 </span></p> </li> <li style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: 17px;">候选人C:他是一位受勋的战争英雄,素食主义者,不抽烟,只偶尔喝一点啤酒。从没有发生婚外情。 </span></p> </li> </ul> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">请问你会在这些候选人中选择谁? </span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">妈妈先说第二题的答案。</span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">候选人A是美国总统富兰克林罗斯福,候选人B是英国首相温斯顿丘吉尔,候选人C是德国杀人魔希特勒。 </span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">我想问你,你是不是选择了希特勒?那你会建议第一题那个妇女去堕胎吗?如果是,那你就杀了贝多芬,她是贝多芬的母亲。</span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">所以,按照你的道德标准、价值判断,你杀了贝多芬,选择了希特勒当领袖。</span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">妈妈希望这个故事能够给你一些启发。你和妹妹有一次异口同声地说,希望年纪大了以后,能有妈妈的智慧。</span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">妈妈和你分享</span><strong style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">赢得智慧的一个重要方法,那就是:开阔自己的心胸,接纳各种不同的人事物。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 17px;">不要因为和你的价值观不一致就一味地去排斥对方或是拒绝靠近,别太快地下定论、做决定,而是始终留给人家“第二次机会”,或是给事情一些时间让它自然去发展、成形。</span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;">心胸宽大了,成见自然不深,更多好的、正向的事物会流向你,让你对这个世界更有安全感。祝福你,亲爱的孩子。</span></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 25px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; text-align: center; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">···</strong></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; white-space: pre-wrap; font-family: -apple-system-font, 'Helvetica Neue', 'PingFang SC', 'Hiragino Sans GB', 'Microsoft YaHei', sans-serif; font-size: 20px; letter-spacing: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: 122%; line-height: 25.6000003814697px; max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 14px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); max-width: 100% !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">作者 | 张德芬 </span><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.6px;">插画 | Cyril Rolando </span><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.6px;">唤醒、疗愈、创造,在这里遇见未知的自己</span></p> </div>